Between Us
As much as I find it a chore to maintain my own lot, and find myself envying my sophomore chemistry teacher, who boasted of having paved over hers, I still always get charmed in thinking through the ecology of forces that lead the house landscape to express itself the way it does. To write out all the factors in play – to be simple to maintain, easy to survey, not outright hostile to plant life – is not all that revealing on its own. It might be more to the point to note that the house lot is more interpersonal than personal.
Our explanations at hand for why landscapes appear the way that they do lie at opposite poles: here, personal fancy (“I just like it that way”), there, deep instinct (“we evolved to like the savanna”). My students neatly switch from one explanation to the other depending on the occasion, spending as little time as possible in the uneasy gradient between them. The common vernacular garden forces a reckoning between individual and group, just as you might imagine vernacular fashion does; it consists of superfluous articles that are shared in a compulsory way, and necessary articles expressed in a fanciful way. People otherwise not inclined to make a statement at all find themselves enjoined to make a display to others; others looking to express themselves are checked within that improbably long list of practical constraints. The field they all occupy together becomes chaotic enough to be best understood as a series of equivocal things – as a battlefield is best understood, to a soldier, as whatever happens to be presently hurtling at them.
The contents of the lot are often chosen less as objects, and more by dint of the set of relationships they make possible. That could mean growing milkweed, despite not liking it much in of itself, only to draw in the butterflies you are really looking for; sowing melon seeds less for the taste than their association with your mother, or your neighbor. You put whirligigs in the front lawn to have something to talk about; you mass the compost in the backyard for the exercise in slinging it. But note all the misunderstandings that can ensue, because each of these things inescapably presents itself to others both as an aesthetic proposition in of itself, and as a piece of the single snapshot that your property presents to the street.
Like language does, landscape stands between us. As much as it makes relationships possible, it is also intended as a tool of disconnection; it says that I am not a part of what is twenty feet away. The suburban landscape is visible as an elaborate set of buffers and bumpers, cushioned offsets to laboriously bubble through. If the lay of the land, and the lawn draped over it, is the necessary grammar that brings us together, the collection of objects upon it is the vocabulary we employ to stand out and stand against, making choices from the little thesaurus of the closest Home Depot. And so we try to make a gate out of rosebushes, or an edge out of privet, feeling the whole time as though we are trying to hammer a nail with a stone.